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An unlearing and relearning journey.

Hello!

I have never done an introduction post for Autistic Realms, so after 18 months and some one kindly nominating me for the Positive Role Model Award as part of the National Diversity Awards and receiving so much lovely feedback, I thought I would share a bit about myself!

I am Helen Edgar, late identified autistic and I have two neurodivergent children. I didn’t know I was autistic until my 40s, so it has been an enormous unlearning and re-learning curve for me over the past few years.

I worked as an early years teacher in an SEN setting near Birmingham for almost 20 years, primarily working with those with profound and multiple learning disabilities and complex health care needs. I resigned due to my own children facing barriers to education and needing to be at home with them.

I thoroughly loved my job as a teacher and still miss it but feel hugely priveleged to have been able to be a small part of children’s lives and also learn from such an amazingly supportive multi-disciplinary team of other teachers, support staff, occupational therapists, speech and language therapists, physiotherapists, nurses and teachers for the visually and hearing impaired, to name just a few! This work provided me with the foundations for Autistic Realms and continues to inspire me. These experiences are now inevitabley woven into and transformed into the writing and the resources I am creating, My passion is reading about autism/monotropism/mental health/learning disabilities and discovering and reflecting on ways forward to provide a kinder, humanistic ecological approach to care and education.

I feel I learnt more from being with the children and their families than they likely learnt from me, although class was always busy with multi-sensory stories, messy creative play and dance massage fun! I learned the importance of listening and being there even when verbal words aren’t used, the value of connecting in shared spaces, and the potential of guiding learning by following and building on children’s personal interests to deepen their learning through play to provide more meaningful experiences.

My teacher training took place in the early 00s, which meant it was based on behaviourism, an approach I now reject. Through Autistic Realms I am passionately advocating to help families and professionals understand the value of understanding and embracing a trauma-informed, neurodiversity-affirming approach to support young people.

Discovering the neurodiversity-affirming theory of monotropism has been life-changing for me as an autstic person. I am deeply grateful for Dinah Murray and her colleagues’ first monotropism paper in 2005, which conceptualised this, and also the subsequent work from the research team that developed the monotropism questionnaire, which has helped explain and validate every aspect of my life.

I set up Autistic Realms 18 months ago at the end of 2022, with a passion for advocating for a better understanding of neurodivergence, mental health and learning disabilities. I am in the process of developing a more accessible and organised website, which will launch later this year, in the meantime you are welcome to explore the monotropic musings of over 50 blogs, 20 free downloadable e-books and around 500 infographics…..the collection grows almost daily!

More info about barriers to education and autistic burnout is here:

A big thank you to The Autistic Advocate, Autistic Parents UK, The PDA Space, Beacon NeuroConnect, Thriving Autistic, Viv Dawes Autistic Advocate, Pandas online, Joanna Grace Tsp, GROVE Neurodivergent Mentoring & Education, Fergus Murray Arts, Science & Minds, Nick Walker Sensei, Stimpunks, Emergent Divergence: The neurodivergent ramblings of David Gray-Hammond, Tigger Pritchard: Neuroaffirming Advocate, Consultant and Trainer and many others for being a huge part of this journey!

I hope some of my work is valuable – always onwards!

Helen xxx


Latest Posts

  • Autistic Burnout – Supporting Young People At Home & School

    Autistic Burnout – Supporting Young People At Home & School

    This is a revised and updated version of the article I previously published with Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism  ‘Supporting Your Young Person Through Autistic Burnout’ (Sep 2023). Click here to download  ‘Autistic Burnout: A Family Guide‘ (137-page PDF resource) Being autistic is not an illness or a disorder in itself, but being autistic can…


  • Monotropic Interests and Looping Thoughts

    Monotropic Interests and Looping Thoughts

    The theory of monotropism was developed by Murray, Lawson and Lesser in their article, Attention, monotropism and the diagnostic criteria for autism (2005). ​ Monotropism is increasingly considered to be the underlying principle behind autism and is becoming more widely recognised, especially within autistic and neurodivergent communities. Fergus Murray, in their article Me and Monotropism:…


  • Map of Monotropic Experiences

    Map of Monotropic Experiences

    Monotropism seeks to explain Autism in terms of attention distribution and interests.  OSF Preprints | Development and Validation of a Novel Self-Report Measure of Monotropism in Autistic and Non-Autistic People: The Monotropism Questionnaire This map highlights 20 common aspects of my personal monotropic experiences. How many do you experience? Where are you on the map…


  • Autistic Burnout – Supporting Young People At Home & School

    Autistic Burnout – Supporting Young People At Home & School

    Being autistic is not an illness or a disorder in itself, but being autistic can have an impact on a person’s mental and physical health. This is due to the often unmet needs of living in a world that is generally designed for the well-being of people who are not autistic. In addition, three-quarters of…


  • The Double Empathy Problem is DEEP

    The Double Empathy Problem is DEEP

    “The growing cracks in the thin veneer of our “civilised” economic and social operating model are impossible to ignore”, Jorn Bettin (2021). The double empathy problem (Milton, 2012) creates a gap of disconnect experienced between people due to misunderstood shared lived experiences. It is “a breakdown in reciprocity and mutual understanding that can happen between people…


  • Top 5 Neurodivergent-Informed Strategies

    Top 5 Neurodivergent-Informed Strategies

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  • Autistic Community: Connections and Becoming

    Autistic Community: Connections and Becoming

    Everyone seeks connection in some way or another. Connections may look different for autistic people. In line with the motto from Anna Freud’s National Autism Trainer Programme (Acceptance, Belonging and Connection), creating a sense of acceptance and belonging is likely to be more meaningful for autistic people than putting pressure on them to try and…


  • Monotropism, Autism & OCD

    Monotropism, Autism & OCD

    This blog has been inspired by Dr Jeremy Shuman’s (PsyD) presentation, ‘Neurodiversity-Affirming OCD Care‘ (August 2023), available here. Exploring similarities and differences between Autistic and OCD monotropic flow states. Can attention tunnels freeze, and thoughts get stuck? Autism research is shifting; many people are moving away from the medical deficit model and seeing the value…


  • Monotropism Questionnaire & Inner Autistic/ADHD Experiences

    Monotropism Questionnaire & Inner Autistic/ADHD Experiences

     Over the past few weeks, there has been a sudden surge of interest in the Monotropism Questionnaire (MQ), pre-print released in June 2023 in the research paper ‘Development and Validation of a Novel Self-Report Measure of Monotropism in Autistic and Non-Autistic People: The Monotropism Questionnaire.‘ by Garau, V., Murray, A. L., Woods, R., Chown, N.,…


  • Penguin Pebbling – An Autistic Love Language

    Penguin Pebbling – An Autistic Love Language

        What is Penguin Pebbling? I think it was Amythest Schaber that first came up with the concept as part of the 5 neurodivergent love languages. Penguins pass pebbles to other penguins to show they care. Penguin Pebbling is a little exchange between two people to show that they care and want to build…


  • Obstacles in the way of Neuro-Affirming Practice in Educational Settings & Ways Forward

    Obstacles in the way of Neuro-Affirming Practice in Educational Settings & Ways Forward

    Implementing neurodiversity-affirming practices in education, healthcare, and other systems is often hindered by pervasive narratives and biases. Recognizing and addressing these obstacles is crucial for fostering inclusive and supportive environments for neurodivergent and disabled individuals. Here are some common barriers that I have been working on with Stimpunks, who have a more in-depth page with…


  • Behaviourism/PBS/ABA/PECs: There are alternative ways

    Behaviourism/PBS/ABA/PECs: There are alternative ways

    ‘The path isn’t a straight line; it’s a spiral. You continually come back to things you thought you understood and see deeper truths’ – Barry H. Gillespie I love this quote by Barry Gillespie ”The path isn’t a straight line; it’s a spiral. You continually come back to things you thought you understood and see…


  • Autism & The Map of Neuronormative Domination: Stuck States vs Flow States

    Autism & The Map of Neuronormative Domination: Stuck States vs Flow States

    In collaboration with Ryan Boren, Chelsea Adams and Norah Hobbs from Stimpunks I have created: Autism & The Map of Neuronormative Domination. We hope that this will help frame the Map of Monotropic Experiences and provide insights as to why it is important to change the narrative that is causing so much harm to Autistic…