🐧 Introducing the Penguin Pebbling Game

Autistic Realms

Helen Edgar
Autistic Advocate, Author & Consultant

Neurodiversity-Affirming
Supporting Autistic People To Grow & Thrive

Welcome to Autistic Realms Newsletter!

Introducing:


Penguin Pebbling:
A Game of Creating Belonging, Building Connection and Understanding Autistic Identity

Something new has just landed at Autistic Realms, and it has been made with a lot of love in collaboration with Stimpunks.

Penguins pass pebbles to those they care, to show love and to form a connection. Penguin Pebbling is one of the Five Autistic Love Locutions.

Many neurodivergent people also pass ‘penguin pebbles‘ to each other as an act of love. You may share a twig you picked up on your walk, a meme about something you know your friend loves — not because you have to, not because it is necessarily useful, just because it says: I thought of you. I wanted you to have this. I care.

The Penguin Pebbling Game is a card-based connection game. It’s built around the Five Autistic Love Locutions — the distinctive ways Autistic people show care, build connection, and create belonging: Infodumping, Parallel Play, Support Swapping, Penguin Pebbling, and Deep Pressure.

No winners. No pressure to perform. Just cards, pebbles, and genuine connection on your own terms.

You can play three ways:

  • Online, directly in your browser — no download needed
  • Print and play with friends
  • Use with groups, in therapy or classrooms
  • Play by yourself and use as a reflective journalling tool.

Every card invites you to share in whatever way feels right — speaking, writing, drawing, AAC, gesture, or anything else. You can always pass. The pebble bank never runs out.

📖 Three things to explore this week

🪨 Play the game — play online or download the printable card deck

💛 The Five Autistic Love Locutions — a warm introduction to the five ways Autistic people show care and love

📚 Theory, Practice and the Five Locutions: A Guide for Practitioners — the research foundations behind the game, for educators, therapists, and support workers

Free to use and share for non-commercial purposes.
Donations welcome for use within therapy and educational settings.
Please credit Autistic Realms & Stimpunks and link back.

Looking forward to sharing more blogs, resources, research and upcoming events soon!

If you find this news letter valuable please do share and encourage people to sign up and visit Autistic Realms – pass on a Penguin Pebble!

Best Wishes,

Helen

“Community is magic.
Community is power.
Community is resistance.”
Alice Wong


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